Erectile dysfunction can affect any male no matter their age. In fact in recent years there has been a huge increase in erectile dysfunction in the under 40’s. Impotence was usually something that was generally fixed by Viagra.
But the issue with taking Viagra is that it has several side effects (headaches, high blood pressure etc). It also means that just have to plan when your going to have sex, and it does not always work. Our mind can still override Viagra sadly and stop it working.
Some men find it difficult to get hard when they are with sexual partners, and other men get hard, but later lose their erection, which may or may not come back during sex.
There are several common reasons for erectile dysfunction:
- General performance anxiety
- Reliance on porn
- Previous damaging sexual experiences
- Low self-esteem/confidence issues
- Prescription medication
- Condom-triggered ED (losing your erection when you put on a condom)
Important: If you can get an erection when you wake up in the morning or when you’re alone perhaps masturbating then the issue is most likely in your mind – which is where I can help.
How can hypnotherapy treat Erectile Dysfunction?
What should generally happen is sexual stimulus and then a response – an erection. However, it can only take a couple of failed attempts, when your penis goes soft and you begin to have excessive thoughts and worries. The more you worry about keeping your penis hard, the more likely it is to become soft. We get into our heads about it and nothing much happens in the erection department.
During our sessions, I use a mix of hypnosis, to help clear any worries, behavioural conditioning, sex education (explaining what’s going on for you and why), brain training and easy hometasks. These together can make a real difference to the issue and get you back on track.
I offer a safe space where you can talk openly and privately about your problems, feelings and behaviours. We can build a therapeutic relationship based on trust and respect. It is a non judgmental space for you to speak about issues you face, that you may not feel comfortable to discuss with friends or family
Around 1 in 5 men from the age of 18 suffers from premature ejaculation, though most never talk about it and just settle for quick, often awkward sex.
Premature ejaculation is a type of sexual dysfunction that occurs when a man has an orgasm and releases (ejaculates) sooner than he or his partner would like.
Emotional or psychological causes include:
- Performance anxiety. Could be due to the nervousness of being with a new partner, anxiousness of having sex again after a long period of abstinence, lack of confidence, guilt, being overly excited or stimulated or other reasons.
- Relationship problems.
Learning control over your orgasms is the same as learning any other skill. And as a skill the more you practice the better you get at it.
Over the hypnotherapy sessions, I will use hypnosis to help speed up the learning process of the new skill, and explain a range of techniques that will give you more control over your orgasms
The list is not definitive, if you have an issue that you would like to discuss with me then please click the button below or call, e-mail to get in touch and talk to me today about how hypnosis can help you. Please be assured that if I do not know the answer I will make that clear. While I am based in West Yorkshire, I service not only Leeds, but also covering all Yorkshire.
Delayed / No Ejaculation
This is an increasing issue with men and I’m seeing more and more; men who are struggling to orgasm. They either do not orgasm at all or find it a challenge.
This is generally due to one of two reasons:
- Porn – usually when someone flicks from scene to scene
- Desensitising of your penis over time
Our subconscious, the more powerful part of our brain, is programmed by our conscious. If you watch porn and swap from scene to scene our subconscious gets the idea that what really turns us on is lots of fast-paced sex. When we have one person in front of us, who doesn’t change every 30 seconds, our subconscious gets confused and it’s hard to push to the point where we orgasm.
Or, imagine rubbing a point on the back of your hand, over and over, sometimes several times a day, for perhaps 20 years. Do you think you’d feel much in that part of your hand? The same goes for your penis, play with them enough and they can start to lose feeling.
With a mix of education, behavioural programming and hypnosis it is possible to retrain the subconscious to look for what really turns you on. At least, to help it understand that what is there, in front of it, is what’s important and using hypnosis it’s possible to ensure that your mind is really on your side.
Low Libido / Sex Drive
Many people feel like they ‘should’ be having lots of sex but they really cannot be bothered. Or they feel like they used to want sex all the time, and again, they are just in no mood.
Perhaps this is with a partner, or just in general, either way, these issues can leave us feeling down or even depressed.
There are several reasons that can lead to low libido including:
- Low testosterone – for various reasons – lack of Vitamin D, weight issues, medication, depression, lack of exercise… and many others
- Social comparison – dating apps, social media, TV gives the impression that everyone is having loads of sex
- Unrealistic expectations – at 20 you might have wanted lots of sex, but at 40 perhaps you might think you do, but actually, you’ve had a fair amount of it over the years and might want to do something else instead which leaves you feeling at odds
- Confidence/self esteem issues
You get validation through sex, which can lead to disappointments if you feel you’re not having/wanting sex
Plus, many other reasons that we can talk about during therapy.