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Why is it so hard for some women to orgasm?

Many women have difficulty experiencing orgasms. This is usually due to a number of factors. The first is misinformation about the female orgasm, the second is men making assumptions about how to make a woman orgasm based on their own sexual response and the third is a lack of communication between partners. This blog will look at how the female orgasm is affected by these different factors, what the female orgasm is and why it is so hard for some women to climax. 

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What is an orgasm?

Orgasms are all around us, we think we know what they are but we do not. The orgasm is a natural response to stimulation of the genitals or other areas of the body. An orgasm is the final stage of sexual arousal in the body and is achieved when the body experiences a series of muscle contractions during sexual arousal. It is the pleasurable release of sexual tensions when the erogenous zones are stimulated and send nerve impulses to the brain. The brain then sends signals to the muscles in the pelvic floor and walls of the vulva to contract. The muscles contract and the uterus pushes upwards into the body causing the “orgasmic” feeling. For many women orgasms are one of the most exciting and satisfying parts of sex either alone or with a partner. However some women fear them, as it’s seen as a loss of control or leaves them feeling vulnerable. For many women they find it difficult to reach orgasm and this is called anorgasmia. 

Orgasm Myths

The orgasm is an amazing experience. The body tingles, the heart races and the mind is at peace. That is what it feels like to have an orgasm. But how many of us are able to experience this feeling on a regular basis? The simple truth is that it is not easy for women to reach climax. There are a lot of myths floating around that have been keeping women from the ultimate sexual satisfaction. From the myth that women can only have an orgasm through penetration to the myth that they can only have an orgasm in the missionary position, these myths are keeping women from their ultimate sexual satisfaction. 

Women find reach orgasms harder’s than men

It is commonly believed that women find it harder to reach orgasm than men. However, this is a myth. While it may take women longer to reach orgasm than men, it is not necessarily more difficult for them. Everyone is different and there are many factors that can affect a person’s ability to climax, such as stress, fatigue, and other medical conditions. In addition, different people have different levels of sensitivity and what may work for one person may not work for another. A study in 2018 found that 95% of both men and women experienced orgasm when masturbating. Showing that women do not find it any harder to orgasm than men, but for women it dropped to 65% achieving orgasms during sexual intimacy with a partner. So 95% of women can achieve climax, but only 20% of women can climax through penetration alone. This is called situational anorgasmia which is a sexual dysfunction when it comes to penetrative sex with men. 

Orgasms from penetrative sex are the best 

It’s a common belief that orgasm from penetrative sex are better than any other kind, but that’s simply not true. While penetrative climax can certainly be enjoyable, there are plenty of other ways to achieve climax that are just as good, if not better.

For example, many people find that orgasms from clitoral stimulation are more intense and satisfying than those from penetration alone. This is because the clitoris is packed with nerve endings, making it one of the most sensitive areas on the body.

This myth comes from the past where women sexuality was controlled by men, and it was only acceptable to have an orgasm with a man. It also comes from the shame and stigma attached to female sexual desire. You can read more about overcoming sexual shame and guilt here. All orgasms involve the clitoris, as it is stimulated either internal or external. Additionally, a woman does not need to be in love to have an orgasm and a partner cannot tell if a woman has had an orgasm. 

A women should fake orgasms to make a partner feel good

This is a common myth that has been perpetuated by movies, TV shows, and even some well-meaning friends or family members. The truth is, faking orgasms is not part of a woman’s sex life. In fact, it can be quite harmful.

Faking orgasms can lead to unrealistic expectations for your partner, and can also make you feel less connected to them. It can also be difficult to maintain the charade over time, and you may find yourself feeling resentful or even angry towards your partner. Most women fake orgasms as they are taught to believe that a partner’s sexual confidence is more important than their own pleasure. They feel they should be having an orgasm with a partner and feel shame when they don’t. 

If you’re not enjoying sex, the best thing to do is to talk to your partner about it. Open and honest communication is the key to a healthy and enjoyable sex life.

While it’s true that an orgasm can be a very pleasurable experience, it’s not necessarily the be-all and end-all of good sex. In fact, there’s a lot to be said for enjoying the journey, rather than just fixating on the destination.

For many people, good sex is all about the build-up, the tension and the anticipation. It’s about exploring each other’s bodies, trying new things and finding out what gets you both hot. It’s about being in the moment, enjoying the physical and emotional connection with your partner. And yes, sometimes it’s about orgasms– but not always.

So don’t believe the myth that good sex is only about climaxing. The reality is that good sex is whatever floats your boat. As long as you and your partner are enjoying yourselves, that’s all that matters.

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How do you know if you have had an orgasm?

Many women question if they have actually had an orgasm, particularly when what they experience is not the screaming, and moaning orgasms portrayed in films. There is no one definitive answer to this question – it is different for everyone. However, there are some general signs that you may have experienced an orgasm. These can include feeling a sense of pleasure or release, feeling muscle spasms or spasms in the genitals, and feeling flushed or sweating. Some people may also experience an increase in heart rate and breathing. If you are unsure whether you have had an orgasm, it is best to assume that you haven’t, as the feeling is distinct even if it is weak.

What makes having an orgasm difficult?

There can be many factors that can make having an orgasm difficult. For women, it can be anything from stress and anxiety to medical conditions like endometriosis or vaginismus. For men, erectile dysfunction can be a major obstacle to achieving climax. Other factors that can impact both sexes include relationship issues, lack of sexual arousal, and certain medications. In some cases, simply taking more time to relax and focus on enjoying the experience can be the key to reaching orgasm.

How can improving your pelvic floor help you have better orgasms?

Kegel exercises can help improve your pelvic floor muscles, which can in turn lead to better orgasm. The pelvic floor muscles are responsible for supporting the bladder and uterus, and they also help with sexual function. Stronger pelvic floor muscles can mean more sensation and stronger orgasms.

To do a Kegel exercise, simply squeeze your pelvic floor muscles as if you’re trying to stop yourself from urinating. Hold the squeeze for a few seconds, and then release. Repeat this 10-15 times, and do it several times a day. Over time, you should notice a difference in your muscle strength. And that can lead to some pretty amazing orgasms.

The female orgasm is a complex, unique experience, and the myths around female orgasms are endless. We hope that this blog post has helped you learn more about the female orgasms and its complexities. If you are interested in learning more about our services, please feel free to reach out to us anytime. We look forward to hearing from you!

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